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Monday, July 24, 2006

Wedding Plans

Well my wedding plan might be changing. B and I had a 9 hour drive yesterday to discuss lots of things, and the wedding was one of them.

Here is the most recent list of possibilities.

1) Traditional-ish Wedding – Outdoor ceremony at a group campsite near here. Tried to reserve a nearby state park and didn’t get it. Most of our invite list will probably make this type of wedding. Because we incur the cost of lodging and meals for a whole weekend this is no longer our favorite option.
2) Courthouse wedding - Reception party in Rochester (possibly in our hometowns as well) and hopefully a honeymoon in Europe. Receptions in a couple of cities will mean we get to celebrate our wedding with most of our family and friends, but we don’t have to incur the expense and stress of the traditional wedding.
3) Grand Canyon Wedding – Everyone flies in to Vegas, and we shuttle to the wedding location the day of. Less cost for us AND our guests, flights and hotels in Vegas are notoriously cheap. Might want to take into consideration families with kids, find an off the strip hotel with some kid friendly activites. Big bonus, who doesn’t want to go to Vegas at some point in their lives and we aint getting married by Elvis!
4) Cruise Ship Wedding – We book a cruise and pay extra for a wedding package. Invite the standard wedding list but realize most people will not be able to afford to be with us. Reception party here, and maybe in our hometowns. Possible depart from locations… Florida or South America.
5) All Inclusive Resort Wedding – We fly there and make use of a wedding package. Possible locations (somewhere warm)… Puerta Vallarta? As with the cruise ship, most people would not be able to afford to come, no grandparents and possibly not a lot of siblings. A handful of people will probably make it and we should have a couple of friends there to be our witnesses.


Anonymous said...

Its YOUR wedding - do what YOU want to do....hopefully this is your 1 and only wedding, so make it about you and your man. Trust me, if you focus only on this, it will drastically cut down on all the stupid pre-wedding drama caused by girlfriends,family, etc.

dabuekke said...

Some things The Knot dot com has to say about destination weddings.

Its Easy
While some people think a wedding away would be a logistical nightmare, we're here to tell you it doesn't have to be. Think about it -- you're not going to be rushing off from one vendor appointment to the next, or worrying about Mom breathing down your neck. Resorts at most of the top destination wedding spots -- Hawaii, the Caribbean, Vegas, and others -- boast at least one full-time wedding coordinator on staff. She'll have relationships with vendors to sort everything out -- just give her an idea of what you want, and she'll pull together all of the pieces to make it happen. If you're flying off to a foreign land, be sure to call that country's tourist office, consulate, or embassy for the legal requirements to get married there.

You Can Relax
Yes, it's your wedding -- but it's also your vacation, so take it easy. Bridezillas be warned: Giving up a little or a lot of control may drive you batty at first, but in the end you'll realize it's quite liberating to have a qualified professional take the reigns. You'll take care of the last-minute details as soon as you arrive at your destination -- the rest of the time leading up to the wedding and beyond, you'll be having fun in the sun with your sweetie and reconnecting with your nearest and dearest while someone else confirms the officiant, the photographer, the cake, even the champagne. Someone plans a party in paradise in your honor -- now come on, how often in life does that happen?

Its Cheaper
Unfortunately, not everyone can afford to spend a week in paradise feting you, no matter how much they adore you. (And no, you're not expected to pay for guests' expenses). The upside to this is that a destination wedding can trim down your guest list to a manageable size, which also can cut way down on costs. Plus, you can fly there, get married, and enjoy a weeklong luxury honeymoon for one flat fee that is your wedding package. To save even more cash, consider scheduling your I dos for your destination's "shoulder season," which is the week or two after the peak season. That way, you'll save dollars without settling for so-so weather. One note: If you're inviting more than just family and close friends, be prepared for a few surprise acceptances -- some of your friends or coworkers might jump at the chance to party with you in paradise.

You Can Show Your Style
If you're considering a destination wedding, there's a chance cookie-cutter I dos aren't your thing. Destination celebrations are tailor-made for showcasing your personality as a couple. Rules are not only bent for destination weddings...they can be nonexistent. Not a fan of the fluffy white gown? Get married in a bikini on a beach in Barbados. Looking for a nonstop party? Vamp it up in Vegas. Fancy yourselves explorers? Say I do in a cave, atop a volcano, or even on a glacier. Take advantage of your surroundings.

You Can Say I Do Twice
There are bound to be many people who can't make it to your faraway festivities. Don't want them to feel left out? Lots of couples host a postwedding celebration upon their return. Send out invitations to a party "celebrating the marriage of," where you can show slides or photos of your faraway vows. If you're having an encore ceremony closer to home, share the story of your getaway wedding in the program. You can even recreate the mood of your destination wedding at your hometown reception: Think Vegas-style decor or an island-inspired menu. And don't forget to register -- it's your and your honey's wedding celebration, and people are going to want to give you gifts!

No Jet Lag for the Honeymoon
Choose a spot you'll love to lounge at over the week or so after your wedding -- and be prepared for some company. After flying far distances and taking time off work to celebrate your day, guests will not want to head home right away, so think carefully about whom you invite: Are these people you'll want to spend time with? If you're lucky, they'll allow you plenty of alone time, too. This is your honeymoon, after all!

Anonymous said...

okay sis, hear is my take. First of all, I might not have to fight J so hard if it is in Vegas!I would definatly be bringing a nanny for the weekend though! LOL Whatever you do is your deal. Granted I liked the campground idea, but realistically is that a finacial option? Wht not just something simple in Rochester? Everyone expects to pay their own expenses anyway, so booking rooms to stay would be the only thing you might look into for them. Other than that, I really was surprised when you actually mentioned having a big wedding. I have always imagined you eloping off on a trip some where. Plus, then everyone who wats to can donate wedding gifts for that instead of a bunch of crap you really don't need. hmmmm..... food for thought! LOL NOT that I got alot of crap for wedding gifts ! But I do recall a set of quilted pillows that clashed with EVERYTHING in my house! Man I was thankful to put those in my garage sale. Anyway, as much as I would love to be at your wedding (and I will if it is state-side) it all boils down to you and B and if you decide to have the family wedding, there will always be somebody who subconscouisly will try to take charge of things. Or also forget that the wedding is not about them but you two. I love you and will be waiting in pins & needles for your final decision. LLH

ladykatya said...

Oh no - the wedding is TOTALLY all about me. ;)



You know my take on this already because we've talked about it, but man alive - you guys need to settle on something and SOON if you still think this is happening next spring! :)


Anonymous said...

EVERYTHING seems to be about you ladykatya.